Reinventing Self Care
Tooth Powder Tooth Paste left, mouth wash center, minty sugar lip scrub right.
The wind is whipping the leaves around like wild dancers in the air on an invisible ball room floor hanging somewhere above the goat’s hill. It is cold today very cold. And to contrast the leaves dancing beautifully is the roar of the wind as it batters the house, shakes the glass windows and rustles the still leafless spring branches. The sun is rising higher now every day, once again beginning to grow in strength until it becomes a force to be reckoned with. It is the end of what most people call march now, the third month of the new year coming as the wave after the world collapsed… Everyone of us is changed from this experience. Every one of us has learned something from going through this terrible virus shut down and tragedy… Watching the wind whip the leaves feels new again. I am not the same woman who used to watch the spring unfold in all it’s cold gradually warming glory. I have a new appreciation for beautiful days like today after hearing so many stories of tragedy. A new trust in nature, that the sun will rise again. I suspect one day, time will once again be divided, kind of like BC and AD, another such dating mechanism may come to exist. BV and AV. Before Virus and After Virus. We are on our way to AD, and the sun seems to be welcoming us on this cold march day into a new era of existence.
Self care products I keep by my sink.
This experience I think has changed us all. Many, who never expected to lose jobs or to deal with shortages have gone through something at least as messed up and defective as the world war two supply chain. Broken, and with shortages. For a while eggs disappeared from the shelves. For a while bread couldn’t be found. And do I really need to talk about what happened with toilet paper? Really? The result, is I have decided I am too trusting and complacent when it comes to the system of supply and demand, a system which may not always be running. What did they do before this system those of my generation and my parent’s generation and even my grandmother’s generation take for granted? They worked crazy hard that is for darn sure. And they thought more creatively than is common today. They turned to nature and their pantries for the same things we turn to the convenience store shelves for as well as the grocery store. I developed recipes and am developing more to start replacing some of these things that we take for granted on store shelves created from my pantry and my little apothecary shelf in the name of self care.
Here at Wildflower, we do not create for beauty’s sake to sell somewhere online. We reuse things such as jars. We create for utility and the innate beauty in utility. This fact is very visible in this photo. We are an environmental homestead before all else.
The sun has become so powerful, that there is a brightness even though the sky is blighted with small clouds and the wind is whipping. Inside, I am making more mouth wash, listening to the wind howl as a new person forged in pandemic quarantine. It is important to understand, tooth paste is always gross. Mouth wash always tastes terrible. But I like the still gross but somewhat softer less burning flavor of natural homemade mouth care.
For my mouth wash you will need:
1/2 teaspoon of baking soda
1 tea spoon liquid food grade coconut oil
1/2 tea spoon vitamin E oil.
3-6 droppers full of stevia
1/2 teaspoon witch hazel
3 drops food grade rosemary essential oil
6 drops food grade peppermint essential oil
1/2- 3/4 cups of filtered well water.
Put all ingredients in a small jar and shake. It is that simple. This mouth wash. Avoid swallowing just swoosh it around your mouth a few times and spit it out. It won’t taste good, but I find it far more palatable though still awful when compared to the store bought burn your mouth to smitherines, literally painful junk I get at the store. Most importantly, my mouth feels clean. And more important than most important, this skill keeps me less dependent on supply chains that crash in emergencies, on money and the world beyond my little world here at Wildflower. There is nothing wrong with the world beyond my property line. But here I am queen, and I find living so dependently as I once did to be a thing I personally never wish to do again. I like having the option and to engage with the world on my terms rather than to meet every need and want, and to be victim to every trend and fad while the most important things in life pass me by.
Thank you for reading
Be well, and allow the experience we have all shared to change you into a more independent and better version of yourself.
Soon we will all be able to return to a world we spent over a year now hiding from.
I think we have a duty to think long and hard about how healthy our past normal really was and perhaps, create a new normal. One where technology and fads don’t rule our lives. One where we keep in mind what it was like to be alone in which we treasure each other more, support each other more, and find value in creating a world more reflective of our care and concern for both others as well as ourselves.
Thank you for reading
Amanda of Wildflower Farm
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Wildflower Farm, is a small New England homestead, B&B and AirBnB, in the Baystate. We came out here 7 years ago, when we returned from the better part of 10 years as peripatetic aristotelian nomads, for my husband's post docs. Upon our return, we had a plan. We had a lovely home. Everything was so clear. Then, I got sick. Things I used to eat all the time during our travels elsewhere in the world and even here before I left almost 10 years earlier made me ill. It took a couple trips to the ER and a trip to specialist... It became clear, something had changed in the way food is processed in this country since last I lived here. Some off label things was inevitably going to be my demise.
My husband and I looked around to see the clear path we were on, had exploded in front of us. We decided we had to create a new path for ourselves. We put children on hold. We found a small piece of land with a house we loved in a rural suburb in a right to farm area. I began researching how to do it ourselves. Grow it ourselves, make it ourselves, survive on our own as much as possible. We bought the property, and began plotting a new course. One that didn't involve off label chemicals. Closer to nature, with a lot more DIY, gardens, and animals for the products they provide. We created a life we loved though it hasn't always been easy and has of course come with compromise with each other, and even with ourselves.
Our family thought we had lost our minds. What were we doing leaving the city? We had no idea how hard this would be. They thought we would be back in 6 months. That was over 7 years ago, now. We have been making it work. They were not wrong, it isn't easy. But has anything worth doing ever been easy? And for us, avoiding as much store bought food as possible was simply necessary so I could live given how sick I was getting.
Then Covid hit.... We were lucky to have this place. It has allowed us a lot less need for public use territories which has kept us a lot safer and spared us much of the risk others face daily. This place, has given us a privilege through this of great meaning to us. To be of use in a difficult time. We have been able to help friends family and even strangers in need when things couldn't be found on store shelves. Or money was tight due to not working, rent being due and a child at home, or some other draining situation. We are so very grateful to have been able to not be helpless like so much of society through this miserable time. Our families, got used to it some time ago, us being out here. They made peace with it the day there was no bread and they had to ask me for some. Or when fresh vegies were rotten due to supply chain issues but they could find plenty in my garden.
Wildflower Farm, was a place I dreamed of. One of those sweet pastoral dreams a city dweller grows up knowing will never come true, that became unavoidable when I became ill. I never expected to get to do this. I never thought I had what it takes to make this work. I have learned pacing myself is important, compromise is critical, hard work never ends, burn out is real so breaks are just a necessary evil.
We are not fully self sufficient, but we work hard in that direction as we create a new path through life for ourselves, always reaching to do even more ourselves and to get closer to the ideal we envision. We are however far more self sufficient than many in this world. 7 years in, we continue to learn and grow in this homesteading lifestyle. We welcome comments and advice and ideas and questions.
We welcome visitors from all over to our home with strict covid policies in place. We spend our time learning to live all over again in a more environmental and sustainable way though even there we are far from perfect always learning and growing doing better as we know better.
This little homestead farm is a magical place named for the New England wildflowers that grow all around. A place where a physicist, watches the night sky on clear nights with the aide of mirror and glass, and a woman, works endlessly in the gardens, the kitchen, and a variety of projects to create and to keep a very unique life style running and functioning. Wildflower Farm, has become so much more than simply a piece of land we can grow a few vegetables on. The longer I spend here, the more alive the land seems, the more I learn about it's function and the more meaning it has. My place in the universe and the next steps on our new path become ever more clear.
We welcome you on this journey with us.